HOW TO THRIVE AS A NEW PARENT

WRITTEN BY SALLY HILLS-DAVIS

CHILDREN'S OCCUPATIONAL THERAPIST

Becoming a new parent is a life-changing experience filled with joy, wonder, and sometimes, a fair share of challenges. It’s a journey that requires patience, learning, and a lot of love. I remember those early days vividly - the sleepless nights, the endless questions, and the overwhelming desire to do everything right. If you’re stepping into this new role, I want to share some practical advice and parenting strategies for beginners that helped me not just survive but truly thrive.

Embracing Parenting Strategies for Beginners

Starting out, it’s easy to feel lost in a sea of advice and opinions. The key is to find strategies that work for you and your baby. One of the first things I learned was to trust my instincts while also being open to learning. Here are some foundational strategies that can make a big difference:

• Establish a flexible routine: Babies thrive on consistency, but flexibility is essential. Initially, aim to establish a daily routine that incorporates feeding, sleeping, and, over time, some floor time and play. However, be prepared to adjust as your baby’s needs evolve.

• Prioritise self-care: It’s tempting to put your baby’s needs above all else, but remember, you can’t pour from an empty cup. Take moments to rest, eat well, and ask for help when needed.

• Stay informed but selective: There’s a wealth of information out there. Choose reliable sources and avoid overwhelming yourself with too much at once.

• Connect with other parents: Sharing experiences and advice with others in the same boat can be incredibly reassuring and helpful.

  
  

Understanding Your Baby’s Needs and Signals

One of the most important skills I developed was learning to read my baby’s cues. Babies communicate through cries, facial expressions, and body language. Understanding these signals can reduce frustration and help you respond effectively.

• Hunger cues: Rooting, lip-smacking, and sucking on hands often mean your baby is hungry.

• Tiredness signs: Yawning, rubbing eyes, or fussiness can indicate it’s time for a nap.

• Overstimulation: Turning away, arching the back, or crying might mean your baby needs a break from activity.

  
  

Responding promptly to these signals builds trust and helps your baby feel secure. It also makes daily life smoother for both of you.

What is the Hardest Time with a Newborn?

Many parents find the first few weeks after bringing their newborn home to be the most challenging. This period is often referred to as the "fourth trimester" because your baby is still adjusting to life outside the womb. Here’s what makes these weeks tough and how to navigate it:

• Sleep deprivation: Newborns sleep in short bursts, which means you’ll likely be waking frequently at night.

• Feeding challenges: Whether breastfeeding or bottle-feeding, establishing a good feeding routine can take time.

• Emotional adjustment: The sudden responsibility and physical recovery can feel overwhelming.

• Physical discomfort: You may be experiencing discomfort - from sore nipples to healing stitches.

  
  

To get through these weeks, focus on small wins. Accept help from friends or family, maintain a calm environment, and remind yourself that this phase is temporary. Every day will get a little easier.

Creating a Supportive Environment for Growth

Your home environment plays a crucial role in your baby’s development. Creating a space that is safe, stimulating, and comforting can encourage exploration and learning.

• Stimulating play: Although your baby will be sleeping and settling in during the first few weeks, having age-appropriate toys that encourage sensory exploration, such as soft books, rattles, and textured fabrics, will soon be necessary.

• Routine and predictability: Consistent nap times and feeding schedules help your baby feel secure and support healthy development. There is no hurry or rush to get these in place straight away, though; settle into having your baby near and at home.

  
  

Building Confidence Through Knowledge and Connection

As you grow into your role, gaining knowledge and connecting with others can boost your confidence. Parenting is a journey of continuous learning, and no one expects you to have all the answers right away.

• Educate yourself: Read books, attend workshops, and explore trusted online resources.

• Join parent groups: Whether online or in person, connecting with other parents provides support and shared wisdom.

• Celebrate milestones: Acknowledge your baby’s achievements and your own progress as a parent.

• Be kind to yourself: Mistakes are part of learning. Treat yourself with the same compassion you offer your child.

  
  

By embracing these approaches, you’ll find joy in everyday moments and feel empowered to meet your baby’s needs with confidence.

Moving Forward with Confidence and Joy

Thriving as a new parent is about more than just managing day-to-day tasks. It’s about building a loving relationship, nurturing development, and growing alongside your child. Remember, every family is unique, and what works for one may not work for another. Trust yourself, seek support when needed, and enjoy the incredible journey of parenthood.

If you’re looking for more guidance, especially in those early months, don’t hesitate to explore tips for new parents that can help you feel more prepared and confident.

Parenting is a beautiful adventure filled with learning, laughter, and love. Embrace it with an open heart and a curious mind. You’ve got this.